Have you ever loved some one for so long and so hard that it literally consumed you? That you just loved and loved and loved regardless of the things they did to you? No matter how bad times got, or how many times they cheated or lied? You just continued to love them. You continued to stay. You loved them no matter how many times they called you names, no matter how many times they called you those names in front of your children. No matter how many times they’d cheat, no matter how many times they would choose themselves and their friends over you and y’alls family. No matter how many times they lied about where they were, or what they were doing. No matter what, you loved them. Did you stay just because you were so comfortable, or because you were scared to leave, or maybe because it was all you had? You probably stayed because you thought LOVE could change them. And wouldn’t it be an amazing world of LOVE had the power to change people..
Love is not easy. Love is work. Love is becoming a better version of yourself. Love is happiness, love is sacrifice, it’s putting one persons well being and happiness before your own. Love isn’t name calling. Love isn’t belittling another in the heat of the moment, when you’re mad to hurt the other. Love isn’t lies and then more lies to save your own ass. Love isn’t betrayal. Love is not supposed to hurt.
Love is supposed to be beautiful.
Don’t love into oblivion. Don’t love someone so much that you can’t see past them. Don’t love someone so much that it blurs your vision because all you see is them.
Don’t be with someone that doesn’t love themselves first. How can anyone possibly love you, when they don’t even love themselves. And for them to first love themselves, they’ll have to find themselves, and know who they are.
Don’t be with someone that doesn’t bring out the best in you, even in those raw moments.
Don’t be with someone that doesn’t love you for who you are and what you stand for.
Don’t be with someone that doesn’t respect you in front of others and behind closed doors.
Don’t stay with someone because you love them so much you think you wouldn’t be able to stand the thought of leaving them. Don’t stay with someone because you think one day you’ll be able to change them, because you can’t change someone that doesn’t want to truly and whole heartedly change.
Don’t be with someone that isn’t everything you’ve ever dreamed and hoped for. He/She is out there, and they are all that and a bag of chips.